The 21st-century 20-something


Monday, July 11, 2011

Dissecting divorce rates

I just recently came across an article from the Wall Street Journal called 'The Divorce Generation', which at first I thought was going to be depressing and disheartening, but of course I went ahead and read it anyways.

Ironically, it was quite the opposite. The woman who wrote it was describing how those in her generation, Generation X, are known for having lived through their parents divorce. Apparently divorce rates are "now at their lowest level since 1970." Encouraging, right?

Well I, like many of you, can figure out why this is most likely true. For one, people are getting married later in life, which means they're both giving themselves the opportunity to establish a career and life of their own, and allowing enough time to get to know or seek out a compatible life partner.

Many people can't wait to get married and start a family right out of high school or college, but I say, 'What's the rush?'


The longer you wait, the more financially and emotionally stable you'll be to handle that kind of responsibility and commitment. What's the point of getting married fresh out of college with no savings, $40,000 of student loan debt, and an entry level job? Why not wait until you've saved up some loot and received a promotion or two?

Also let's be honest, who doesn't want to enjoy their 20's? The freedom that comes with being young, energetic, and carefree is often taken for granted. You can't stay at the bar with old friends until 2 a.m. when you have a newborn at home, right?

There's also not as much pressure, especially for women, as there was in the '60s and '70s to get married at 20 only to end up being a housewife with jilted career aspirations who's only excitement is choosing whether to make apple or cherry pie on any given day.

Now I'm sure this isn't always the case. Some people get married young and stay happily married for years. It happens. Rarely, but it does.

As someone who has divorced parents, I've seen how it works. In fact, I can only think of a handful of friends that have parents who are still married.

Marrying young is obviously not always the reason for divorce, but it is something that should be carefully considered before making any rash decisions.

What do you think? Is marriage just a crapshoot either way? What do you think increases the likelihood of a successful marriage?

2 Comments:

Blogger James Williams said...

Marrying young may be the reason because of financial instability and pressure make them to divorce.


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July 18, 2011 at 8:39 AM  
Anonymous Mr. X said...

As a twenty-something myself, I can say that there is little pressure to get married at a younger age. You are right, and statistics prove this to be a fact: younger people are waiting longer to get married. The reason - many young people are now embracing cohabitation. While studies confirm that cohabitation leads to marriage...it does delay it considerably.

Yes, why would you want to get married in your 20s? I can't imagine graduating from SU with a 4-year degree, owing 100k+ in student debt, and saying "you know...I want to get married now and have kids...it sounds a good plan!" Authors and writers are correct when they say "30 is the new 20" - it seems that economics (largely) has created a situation where we push 'growing up' out further, and further. We live in a world now where 22-30 year olds return home to live with their parents, because they can not find a decent job, for whatever reason.

Conversely, we can see why divorce rates go up with even younger people. Those getting married younger, are no better off (in maturity, or their fiscal state) than their single counterparts. I would also wager that those getting married younger are probably barely finishing high school, or settling with only 2 year degrees.

"You can't stay at the bar with old friends until 2 a.m. when you have a newborn at home, right?"

LOL! I beg to differ - those foolish enough to have kids early in today's world will probably be foolish enough to pawn their kids off on their own parents. You made me laugh, really hard.

July 20, 2011 at 7:10 PM  

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