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Monday, June 25, 2012

Important Facebook etiquette

If we're all being honest with ourselves, Facebook is a large part of our lives. It's how people young and old keep in contact with family, friends and acquaintances near and far.

Having been an avid Facebook user for the past seven years, I have learned a thing or two about proper Facebook etiquette. Not that I follow it consistently, but nevertheless I know the basic rules.

Here's a couple things to keep in mind:

Don't 'friend' your boss
Unless you want them to see all those photos from college or statuses you posted when you were drunk, stay away from friending bosses and co-workers. 
Some people think it makes more sense to delete all of the embarrassing photos, tags, and statuses -- but let's be real, that defeats the entire purpose of having Facebook in the first place. 
I will say that I am Facebook friends with co-workers, but they are also people I've associated with outside of the workplace and are relatively my age. I trust you to gauge the appropriateness considering your specific co-workers.

Keep the dramatic status updates to a minimum
I'll be the first to admit that I have posted some emo song lyrics when I've had a bad day. But when all you do is post about how guys suck or you're having the worst day ever because they gave you the wrong order at Dunkin' Donuts, trust that you're posts are being 'hidden' as we speak.
And if people are hiding your posts or deleting you all together, it again defeats the purpose of having Facebook. 

Don't poke people. Ever.
There is no purpose to this Facebook function. Just don't do it.

Never 'Select All' when sending game/event invites
It may take an extra two minutes, but go through and select people that this invite is relevant to. I don't want the invite to your performance at the coffee shop five hours away. I won't be going.

Avoid over-sharing
Nobody wants to read the status that you're finally going to the doctor's to get that mysterious rash checked out. I don't want to know that you and you're boyfriend got in a fight over who ate the last granola bar and then made up later that night -- 'wink face.' And I definitely don't want to know how excited you are that that pregnancy test came back negative. 

Don't 'friend' someone you've never met or spoken one word to
I don't care how many mutual friends Facebook says you have, if you've never spoken to someone, don't friend them. It's bizarre and creepy. I know we all have those random 'friends' on Facebook that we don't really know or have only met once or twice, but as long as you've had some kind of interaction with them it's not that weird. On that same token, don't accept friend requests from people you don't know. Then you're just asking for it.

Don't 'share' your Facebook game accomplishments
Absolutely no one cares that you have a new high score in Bejeweled or are currently playing Farmville, Cityville or any other ville. They just don't.

'De-friend' with caution
Although Facebook doesn't alert you when someone ends your 'friendship,' it probably won't take long for them to find out. If you're de-friending someone you barely know and met one time at the bar three years ago, neither of you are probably interested in whether or not you're Facebook friends. 
But if you're de-friending a close friend or family member after a fight, it is probably taken more seriously than the verbal argument you got in that lead to the de-friending. If you're doing it just to make a statement, don't. It is way too dramatic to do it unless you really mean it.

I know I will probably add to this post later, and if you can think of any other rules feel free to leave them in the comments!


Blogger Caitlin Traynor said...

There's nothing ruder or more annoying than someone who obviously sits on FB for two hours and does nothing but reshare other people's posts - ya know those funny captioned photos or inspirational quotes superimposed on photos of sunsets, etc. If I can't get on FB and actually be able to read my friends status' because you posted 18,000 irrelevant things, you're getting de-friended or hid. Sorry!
Also a pet-peeve which I have admittedly done on several occasions -- the ominous, vague, melodramatic post that's just calling for attention but yet the poster doesn't actually want to talk about.

June 25, 2012 at 3:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Keep your private messages private.Explicit sexual messages can be seen by friends of friends, and thus bosses, mothers, and others who shouldn't see them , or those of us who don't want to see them.

June 25, 2012 at 4:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

nice posting.. thanks for sharing.

June 27, 2012 at 4:44 AM  

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