Why chivalry is dead, from a woman's perspective
"The real problem here is that women, for one reason or another, have become complacent and allowed men to get away with adhering to the bare minimum. We no longer have to put in the effort of flowers, chocolates, dates, etc., and if we do, we come off as stage-five clingers."
John, let me make something very clear for you, it is not 'women' in general that have become complacent, it is a certain type of woman. The type that men, like yourself, seem to seek out. The women that are validated by sexual relationships and have very little respect for themselves, so why in God's name would they expect respect from you? This, my friend, is the real problem.
Though you obviously don't realize it, there are women out there - like myself - who greatly appreciate opened doors and nice dinners, purely for the effort made on your part to be respectful. I am very capable of opening a door and feeding myself, but these are just subtle cues that you may be a nice person that I may like to spend time with. And you certainly aren't 'getting any' from me just for that. Some girls are more than happy to go home with a guy for a $2 beer - this is why we are all getting a bad rap as women.
John also goes on to say:
"Eventually, I feel that women will wise up and start asking for the things that they deserve, the things used to be automatic and expected of men, like holding a door, pulling out a chair, and paying for dinners. Until then, men are going to get away with putting in the bare minimum and receiving what we ultimately want anyway – sex."
This is infuriating to me. Women need to ask for what they deserve? No, John, you as a man need to act right and treat women how your nice Italian grandmother advised you to.
But John is right about one thing, what men ultimately want is sex. That is why chivalry is dead. All day, everyday a man will go with a woman willing to give it up, over one they have to work for. Most people take the shortest road to their destination, but don't make it our fault that you're taking shortcuts in life and will end up suffering the consequences. Why do men take home the drunk girl they talked to for 5 minutes at the bar grinding all over them, instead of the girl they went on 10 dates with, who has a good job and a killer sense of humor and can hold an intelligent conversation? Your guess is as good as mine.
Sex and relationships, like most other things in life, are about quality not quantity. When men stop being lazy and seeking out the women who are going to give them what they want immediately, regardless of their compatibility or character, we will be on the right track again.
Bottom line, when men start to have standards and are willing to put the time and energy into finding a quality partner - chivalry may have a chance to re-emerge.